“…whoever welcomes a child like this…. welcomes Me.”
A Letter from Desmond & Cassandra
After almost 10 years of marriage, we’re still best friends.
We balance each other out perfectly. Desmond can be a bit of a free spirit, and Cassandra is analytical and strategic. Desmond is naively optimistic, while Cassandra is cautiously discerning.
We have been together for nearly 12 years and married for almost 10. We have been inseparable since the beginning—our meeting felt like coming home. Our love has only deepened over time, and we have learned that we can count on each other no matter what life presents. Having been together for so long means we know how to comfort each other, how to make each other laugh and how to solve problems together. For two people who generally would rather talk about anything other than themselves, pouring our collective life and heart into this profile is not a simple task. But the motivation is powerful and the sentiment genuine.
Traveling Our Journey
Traveling is our absolute favorite thing to do for so many reasons – to explore beautiful scenery, experience new things, spend quality time together, etc. But our favorite thing about traveling is learning about different cultures, meeting new people, and expanding our own perspectives, beliefs, and knowledge of the world we live in. We feel strongly about continuing to travel with our children so we can give them the same opportunities we’ve long enjoyed!
As we sit to create this profile, our hearts are pounding with excitement and emotions, mostly because we know exactly how much lives can change because of open adoption. We adopted our daughter Joy a little over 5 years ago and all our lives have been changed forever in an amazing joyful way. We understand that this is a very difficult time, and we totally understand the wide range of emotions that the adoption process makes birth families feel. We hope that our experience can guide us all and assist in this process. We have learned that once you connect, start to talk and get to know each other it gets a bit easier and the process starts to become more real and less scary.”
You are looking for a wonderful home and future for your child and we’re looking to share our love and lives with another child in our family. Perhaps we are looking for each other? Since our amazing first date in New York back in 2009, we’ve realized that a life together is the path we were meant to take all along. That path has led us here today, to you, and someday to another beautiful child. As parents, we hope to instill confidence in our children and the courage and determination to dream big! We will love and support them no matter what and raise them to be kind and accepting of others.
In addition to a warm and loving home, we hope to give them an abundance of experiences and memories!
Desmond is special in every way. He can make you laugh when you want to cry. This skill of his makes having a difficult job and traveling from time to time bearable. Because I know all I need to feel better is to call or see him. He is the light in a room in which there is none. With him beside me, I have got someone strong, dependable, supportive, and giving. His Caribbean heritage and his militant cleaning routines make for a great combination. I enjoy restaurant-quality meals at home and our home remains showroom ready with minimal involvement from me. In short, he is funny, feels at home in the kitchen, and is an equal opportunity house cleaner that is also a great provider and caretaker.
One of Cassandra’s best qualities is that she is nothing like me. Our upbringings were different culturally, economically, and geographically. But her superpower is to make sure that we are a stronger unit because of our differences. She also makes difficult times easier, the easy times sweeter, and during the sweet times, she makes me feel like the most loved person in the world. From our marathon first date to today, I have not regretted a moment in her company. It is those facts that lets me know how lucky I am to have found her.
Learn More About Desmond & Cassandra
|Our Education||Bachelor of Science in Management||Bachelor Business Management|
|Our Professions||CEO of startup (DCG Business Solutions) & Full time student||Salesforce.com Transformation Executive|
|Our Racial Background||African American||African American|
|Some of Desmond & Cassandra's Favorites|
|Movies||Lord of the Ring Trilogy, The Hobbit Trilogy, An affair to Remember & My Fair Lady||Harry Potter, The Hobbit Trilogy, Most 80's horror movies|
|Sport & Team||Basketball (Knicks) & Baseball (Mets)||Basketball (Knicks) & Baseball (Mets)|
|Music||Reggae||R & B|
|Place to Vacation||The Caribbean||Fiji|
|More About Our Family|
|An interesting belief that we both share!!|
Our love for each other is the food of our lives but traveling is dessert
|Cassandra in a quote|
“Family is the best thing you could ever wish for. They are there for you during the ups and downs and love you no matter what.”
|Desmond in a quote|
“After being married for almost a decade, I’ve come to know one thing to be true. That thing is, that marriage is a relationship in which one person is always right and the other is the husband (me).”
|About Our Home|
Our home in California is beautiful and comes with a self-made paradise for a backyard. We often sit and enjoy the view of the city lights and amazing sunsets in the evening while relaxing in our pool and spa. We also elect to have our morning coffee on the front porch to take in the amazing mountainous view. Desmond has created a beautiful organic garden that continuously produces fruit and veggies, of over 17 varieties. If we’re ever tired of swimming in our pool, we sometimes jump over to the pickleball court and 365 views of nature. In short, our backyard was designed to encompass the feeling of being on vacation without ever leaving home. It's where we get the balance from the other aspects of our busy lives.
|We Prefer a Child Who Is...|
|Age of Child|
New Born - 2 years
Yes, we would love twins
Yes, up to age 4 yrs
Our life is an open book – so jump in and take a good look around. But most importantly, enjoy the ride – because we certainly are. Just remember to keep your hands and feet inside the cart at all times. We are proud and happy in the life we share together and want so much to expand our family once again, through adoption Thus, we’re excited about the prospect of adopting a second child. We’ve both been fortunate to have come from stable, loving families who have supported us throughout our lives. We clearly did something right during our last adoption to end up being truly blessed with our daughter, appropriately named Joy. She has brought so much good fortune to our lives that it defies description. We cannot even imagine how difficult this decision must be for you and we admire your courageous decision to make an adoption plan for your precious child. We are dedicated to giving all of our love to your child in welcoming them into our family.