As you think about adoption for your baby, we know that you want to find just the right Christian adoptive parents for them. You want your baby to grow up with the best life possible full of God’s love. It’s normal to want the best for your child.
Be sure to pray and ask for God’s guidance. He’s able to lead you to find the best possible adoptive family for both you and your child. Here are some tips to help you find the right Christian adoptive parents for your baby.
Lifetime Christian Adoption has perfected the process of helping women who are especially interested in Christian adoptive parents for their children. Lifetime works with families from many religious backgrounds, so helping you find a Christian family for your child is something we specialize in. Keep reading to learn how the process of finding Christian adoptive parents works with Lifetime.
The First Steps
When you contact Lifetime, you get your own dedicated Adoption Coordinator. She will help you create an adoption plan, so things go just the way you want. In addition, your Adoption Coordinator can help you learn about Christian adoptive couples so you can find just the right one for your baby.
Lifetime Adoption’s adoptive families have been thoroughly screened. They have had a home study, which includes complete background checks, health exams, home safety checks, and more. A social worker has interviewed them to determine if they are qualified to adopt a child. Your Adoption Coordinator can reassure you about all these things so you can feel completely comfortable knowing your child will be raised with a loving family in a safe environment.
Tips for Choosing Your Baby’s Christian Adoptive Parents
You might already know what you’re looking for in Christian adoptive parents. But religion might not be the only thing you want to have in common with an adoptive family. Your Adoption Coordinator will help you narrow down your preferences by asking questions such as:
Do you want your baby to grow up with siblings?
Some women feel it’s important for a couple who already have kids to adopt their baby. They want to make sure their baby grows up alongside siblings. Other women want an adoptive couple without children, so their child is the eldest. Remember, there are no wrong preferences. Be sure to be totally honest with your Adoption Coordinator about what you want for your child.
Is the location of your baby’s future home important to you?
Do you picture your baby growing up near the West coast? Or maybe you’d like them to be raised on a farm in the Midwest? Since Lifetime is a national, full-service adoption agency, we work with adoptive families across the United States. This allows you to choose where your child lives. So whether you picture your child in a busy urban setting or a small rural one, we can meet your vision for your baby.
Does it matter to you whether your child looks like their adoptive parents?
Some women feel strongly about choosing an adoptive couple who shares their ethnicity and culture. If an adoptive family wants to adopt a child with a different cultural background or race, Lifetime encourages them to learn everything they can about this type of adoption. They want to be sure they understand how to help their child learn about and celebrate their culture.
Studies show that adopted adolescents with adoptive parents who acknowledged racial or ethnic differences had fewer delinquent behaviors. Lifetime realizes the importance of equipping adoptive families to be the best parents they can be for your child. You can explore Christian adoption profiles of Lifetime adoptive parents by clicking here.
Tips for Reviewing Adoptive Parent Profiles
As you read through each Christian adoptive family’s online profile, you will learn a little about them. Take your time as you read each profile and watch their video.
You may want to write things about each couple that appeals to you. If you think you’d be comfortable with an adoptive family, they could be the perfect parents for your child. Don’t rush through the profiles, but spend time on each one to determine how you feel about each couple.
Choosing your baby’s adoptive parents can be an emotional decision for you. You can trust that God will lead you. Pray and ask your friends to pray for you as you make this life-changing decision.
Once you’ve found several adoptive couples that seem like a good fit, you will talk to them on the phone. Talk to all the adoptive families you chose so that you can compare. As you speak to them, think about what values are important to you. You will want their religious beliefs to match yours as well as other values that are important to you, such as family connections or work ethic.
Questions to Ask Christian Adoptive Couples
Once you find an adoptive family profile that speaks to you, you can get to know the family better through a phone call. As you chat with them, you might ask questions about their religious background, such as:
- What kind of church do you attend, and how often?
- What made you choose that church?
- What’s your church community like?
- Are you involved in any of your church’s groups or activities such as volunteer work, Sunday school, or Bible study group?
- In what ways does your faith shape your lives?
- Is it important to you that your children get baptized? Why or why not?
- How do you plan to teach your children about the Lord?
- Will your faith affect what type of education your child gets? Will you choose a private religious-based school? Why or why not?
Besides learning more about your baby’s potential adoptive family during this phone call, they’ll be able to get to know you.
Talking with several families is a good way to compare them. Plus, you’ll know what feels right and what doesn’t because having a connection with your baby’s adoptive parents is so important. For example, you might find an adoptive family who meets all your criteria but doesn’t have a strong Christian faith. This could be a red flag for you. Since this will be a lifelong relationship, don’t make a quick decision. It’s easy to feel discouraged, but don’t worry; you’ll find the perfect adoptive family for your baby.
You’re Not Alone
As you go through the process of choosing the right Christian adoptive parents, your Adoption Coordinator will be there to support you. She will answer any questions you have about the adoptive families or the adoption process. Their goal is to help you make the best decision for you and your child.
Of course, you can find comfort knowing that God is with you throughout the process.
To learn more about creating an adoption plan through Lifetime Christian Adoption, please call or text us at 1-800-923-6784, or request free info online.
Editor’s Note: This article was originally published on April 28, 2019, and has since been updated.
As the Vice President (VP) of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.
Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.
As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.