What Does the Bible Say About Adoption?

Discover what the Lord has to say about adoptionSome wonder what the Bible has to say about adoption. Let’s take a look today at God’s view of a family unit and His plan for children:
 
Adoption is legal (and Biblical)

Adoption was around during Biblical times as a legal option. Per the Lord’s Word, an adopted child became a legitimate heir to the father’s estate. They were treated as one ‘born into’ their new family!

We can see many examples of adoption in the Bible: Moses’ adoption by Pharaoh’s daughter, Esther’s adoption by her cousin Mordecai, and of course, Joseph’s acceptance of Jesus as his son. And, God adopted the entire tribe of Levi as His own. The Bible doesn’t indicate any difference between the roles and responsibilities an adopted child or biological one. In the eyes of God and the eyes of the law, adoptive families are ‘real’ families.

The facts of adoption
Children adopted into families are no different legally than a biological child.  However, the relationships and similarities that form are usually nothing short of a miracle. “My adopted son couldn’t look more different from me: he’s very slender, over 6 feet tall, and quite fair.  But we have so many things in common – similar habits, personalities, and laughs.  When I look at my son, I know deep in my soul that God meant for us to be together,” shares Lifetime’s Founder & adoptive mom, Mardie Caldwell.

Spiritual importance of adoption
Romans 8:15–17, 23 and Galatians 4:4–7 tell us that all believers are children of God and they are heirs through adoption. So, each one of us is a part of God’s adoptive family. To describe His relationship with believers, God uses adoption as a beautiful metaphor. This allows us to call Him “Abba”, which is Aramaic for Daddy and expresses the closeness of children with their fathers. As Ephesians 1:5 puts it, “He predestined us for adoption to sonship through Jesus Christ, in accordance with His pleasure and will.”

Adoption creates spiritual and legal families, which are completely real in the eyes of the law and the eyes of God.

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The Cure for Disappointment? Read the Word of God

We encourage you to read the Word of God if you get discouraged in your adoptionI am the Lord, the God of every person on the earth. Nothing is impossible for Me.
— Jeremiah 32:27

When you’re dealing with a major disappointment in your life such as a failed adoption, you need to be aware that God is still in control. You need to know that it’s not over until He says so.

Life’s accidents and difficulties are not a reason to bail; they’re simply a reason to wait.

If you’re wondering how you’ll handle discouragement or cure for disappointment, go back and read the Word of God. Then read again. You’ll get reminded that you aren’t the first person to mourn. And, you’re not the first one to be helped.

The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves.
He will take great delight in you; in His love He will no longer rebuke you,
 but will rejoice over you with singing.
— Zephaniah 3:17

This verse reminds us that God is on our side, cheering for us. When you’re too tired to keep waiting for your adoption to happen, He’ll carry you. If you’re too discouraged to keep up with your adoption paperwork, He’s picking you up.

The bottom line is this: God is in control. Throughout eternity He’ll remain in control. And, especially, our great God also loves us!

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“If adoption is part of God’s plan, are infertility and unplanned pregnancy too?”

is unplanned pregnancy part of God's plan?The idea of adoption goes back to the Old Testament, in the story of Moses (Exodus 2:10), Genubath (1 Kings 11:20), and Esther (Esther 2:7). Ephesians 1:5 shares with us that God willed us in love to be adopted as His children through Jesus Christ, “in accordance with God’s pleasure and God’s will.”

In the era of the New Testament, the Romans, Greeks, and Babylonians had carefully-dictated standards and rituals for adoption. Their loving and sacrificial connotations of adoption can be seen in Scriptural references of adoption as a form of salvation and grace.

But some ask “if adoption is part of God’s plan, are infertility and unplanned pregnancy too? We say that God’s plan is perfect, but how do reproductive issues fit into that plan?”

It can be difficult to compare these issues to the concept of a loving, kind God whose desire as a parent is to shield His children from harm! We have to accept that even when God compassionately hears and understands our questions, His answers may seem slow to arrive.

We would never be so bold as to try to speak for our Creator. Based on our years of dedicated service in adoption, however, this is how we understand it.

Most Christians believe that God’s plans are not meant to be understood by humans, even though we try so hard to make sense of things that seem to go against what we’d hoped for. Here is where FAITH is important: trust God’s promise to reveal His purposes. Most people of faith believe that God has given human beings free will. Because of this, our plans can go in ways that God wouldn’t have chosen for us. And yet, God is with us in the face of every challenge!

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“God Heard Our Prayers”

Here’s a beautiful adoption update our staff received from Christian adoptive couple Morgan and Wendy:

“We are all doing well. It’s hard to believe a year has already passed us by!

Our precious son is growing up quickly. He’s walking and running about and bursting with energy. He is a very happy and pleasant child. He’s kind, loving, and affectionate. He has a very big appetite and loves vegetables. I think mashed potatoes and gravy might be his favorite dish. He likes playing with blocks and is learning the alphabet.

We’re very blessed and happy parents. God truly heard our prayers when He brought us our boy!

Here is a baby picture alongside a photo taken at his first birthday party!”

God answered Morgan and Wendy's prayers for a baby!

Do you feel God is calling you to adopt a baby? You can take the first step in your journey towards adopting today, simply by filling out Lifetime’s free online application to adopt!

 

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When God Tells You to Wait

“But these things I plan won’t happen right away. Slowly, steadily, surely, the time approaches when the vision will be fulfilled. If it seems slow, do not despair, for these things will surely come to pass. Just be patient! They will not be overdue a single day!”
-Habakkuk 2:3 LB

After you made the decision to follow the dream of adoption that God placed in your heart, you can expect a wait. This is another step toward building your faith. He won’t fulfill your dream instantly.

In Habakkuk 2, God says, “These things I plan won’t happen right away. Slowly, steadily, surely, the time approaches when the vision will be fulfilled” (Habakkuk 2:3 LB).

When delay comes to your dreams of adopting a baby, you might start asking a question such as “When, Lord? When will you answer my prayer?!”

In our modern times of social media and instant gratification, we hate to wait. We don’t like to wait in traffic jams, in the doctor’s office, at restaurants, or for anything else. But what you may hate most of all is waiting on God.

All of us have to go through these waiting periods. Think of Jesus; He waited for 30 years in the carpenter’s shop before going out on his public ministry.

Why is it required that we wait? It shows us to trust in the Lord. What we discover is that His timing is perfect. One of the facts we need to get is that God’s delay never destroys His purpose.

Experiencing a delay does not mean your prayers are being denied. Just as children need to learn the difference between “no” and “not yet,” we do too. Many times it happens that we believe God is telling us “No,” when He is actually saying, “Not yet.”

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Trusting God in Times of Struggle

Trust God in times of struggleThis beautifully moving and thought-provoking message is from Lifetime Christian Adoption Founder Mardie Caldwell’s personal favorite, Jesus Calling by Sarah Young. It’s a beautiful reminder to pray and speak to God when you’re struggling with your adoption wait!

“TRUST ME in the midst of a messy day. Your inner calm – Your Peace in My Presence- need not be shaken by what is going on around you. Though you live in this temporal world, your innermost being is rooted and grounded in eternity. When you start to feel stressed, detach yourself from the disturbances around you. Instead of desperately striving to maintain order and control in your little world, relax and remember that circumstances cannot touch My Peace.

Seek My Face, and I will share My mind with you, opening your eyes to see things from My perspective. Do not let your heart be troubled, and do not be afraid. The Peace I give is sufficient for you.”

-John 16:33; Psalm 105:4; John 14:27

Sometimes, we remain so focused on a problem, that our focus is taken off of God…never a good idea in any situation. TRUST GOD with every part of your life, and He will see you through. Seek His Peace and align your heart with God.

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“Let Jesus Speak” Series of Sermons

Pastor Ray Johnston of Bayside Church in Northern California began a series of sermons called “Uncensored – Let Jesus Speak.”  We have included his kick-off sermon below. In the clip, he shares a wonderful example of how powerful giving is.

This encouraging truth is something we get a glimpse of when we see the amazingly beautiful, and often unexpected, connections that come from open adoption. Here’s a heart-warming 8 minutes to brighten your Sunday morning!

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A Father’s Day Message to Those Waiting…

learn how to become a Godly father“Any man can be a father
but it takes someone special to be a dad.”
-Anne Geddes

With Father’s Day coming up in a few days, I wanted to write to all of you adoptive dads-to-be. You’ll be celebrating Father’s Day yourself just a short while from now!

“I talk and talk and talk, and I haven’t taught people in 50 years what my father taught by example in one week.”
-Mario Cuomo

The role you’re about to have is one of the most influential roles you’ll ever have. And it starts long before your baby has been placed in your arms.

Your future son will mirror your actions as their father, and watch your every move for guidance to help make him into the man he’ll become. And your future daughter will watch you as her role model to help out when she chooses the boys to date and the type of man she’ll marry.

Clarence Budington Kelland said, “My father didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.” Consider what your children will observe from you.

Are you feeling overwhelmed? I hope not. It is a big responsibility, so remember that God is on your side. He wants to guide and inspire you to become the father and husband He wants you to be.

Father’s Day is a great time to pray about the areas of improvement you might have. The Lord will lead you to your children who’ll look to you for guidance and trust their little lives in your hands. You’ll become an instrument which God uses in their lives.

So how do you grow into the best father and role model possible? By making God your teacher, and recognizing that His authority should rule everything you do. As a dad, one of your duties will be to teach your children Scripture and love and kindness for their mother.

“Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not turn from it.”
-Proverbs 22:6

The habits you’re forming today become the qualities in building your future child’s hero. I encourage you never to give up and to remember the important role you’ll play in your child’s life. When you feel doubt, turn to God for direction. My prayer for you, the adoptive dads-to-be, is that you have strength and faith in your path towards becoming a Godly father.

God bless you and know we are praying for you and your adoption,
Mardie Caldwell

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Christian Adoptive Couple Ron and Katie’s Adoption Video

Christian adoptive couple Ron and Katie's photosChristian couple Ron and Katie are an outdoorsy, adventurous couple from Michigan. They believe strongly that God led them to adoption as their path to become parents.

They’re ready and excited to adopt a boy or girl of any race and look forward to sharing their love, family, and guidance with a child.

Ron and Katie write, “We promise to raise your child in a safe and loving environment. We plan to expose your child to a wide range of cultures and will help him or her set goals and reach for dreams. We promise to model the importance of a relationship with God, family, friends, and community. We will love your child unconditionally and raise your child with a deep appreciation for you. We promise to maintain the kind of relationship with you that you are comfortable with.”

Here’s Christian adoptive couple Ron and Katie’s adoption video:

Michigan Adoptive Couple Ron and Katie’s Adoption Video from Lifetime Adoption on Vimeo.

Visit Ron and Katie’s adoptive family profile online to learn more about them, view their photos, and read their “Dear Birthmother letter.”

You may also browse other adoptive family profiles at www.LifetimeAdoption.com. If you see an adoptive family that you’re interested in, please give Lifetime a call at 1-800-923-6784.

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Do All to the Glory of God

So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.
1 Corinthians 10:31

In our ambitious, fast-paced lives, self-care usually takes the back seat. It gets overtaken by other needs and leaves you feeling exhausted. Do your shoulders feel constantly tense from stress? Or are you scarfing down unhealthy food because you have no time to cook?

Taking care of yourself is so important. It’s important enough that we need to get in the habit of doing it every single day. Once you start taking care of yourself, you’ll notice that you’re more effectively able to work and to care for others. This will become so vital once you bring home your baby through adoption!

Taking a long and leisurely walk around the neighborhood with your spouse is a great tradition to start. You’ll not only be getting exercise, but you’ll also be re-connecting with your husband or wife. Plus, it’s a tradition you can continue once you adopt! Long walks benefit both your mind and body; they’ve been known to help clear the mind of anxious thoughts.

To begin taking care of yourself physically, just make a few small changes. You’ll soon start to see big results! Here are a few examples of small things you can do: stretch at night before you go to bed, add kale to your smoothie, or drink more water. Once you’ve made a few smaller changes, you will be ready for bigger ones, such as attending a class at your gym or beginning a healthy eating plan. And, of course, go on long walks. There are so many methods to take care of yourself; it’s about finding what works for you.

Once you’ve started your journey towards self-care and a healthy lifestyle, you’ll be encouraged to keep going! Remember that your health is a blessing during your adoption process; one that deserves care and attention.

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