“She’s a Blessing from God!”

Here’s a beautiful adoption update our staff received from Christian adoptive couple Darryl and Melissa:

“Hi Libby,

Wanted to drop you and all the people at Lifetime a note and pictures of Eligia. Can’t believe she turned two yesterday! It seems like we just got the call – and that she has been a part of our lives forever – all at the same time.

Thank you to all the people of Lifetime for all you did in helping us bring her home. She is truly a blessing from God, the one He had chosen for us all along. His timing truly is perfect.

Blessings on your day!

Melissa and Darryl”

Do you feel God is calling you to adopt a baby? You can take the first step in your journey towards adopting today, simply by filling out Lifetime’s free online application to adopt!

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4 Questions to Ask When Thinking About Adoption for Your Child

Making an adoption plan for your baby or child is a difficult decision.  No matter what your decision is, you should know that God loves you for who you are.

God will forgive you for your sins and give you a clean slate.  Forgiveness will not rely on whether or not you give your baby up for adoption, but on where your heart is at the time.

As a Christian, it’s important to feel comfortable with the choice you end up making. Think about these questions:

  1. Environment: What is the atmosphere you live in? Can you provide a safe and warm shelter? Are you living without life’s necessities?  Your home should be clean and up to city codes.
  2. Finances: Are you able to provide the medical care your baby needs? Can you afford to feed the baby and yourself healthy foods?  Money is a big issue when considering raising a child on your own.
  1. Education: Are you still school? Have you graduated?  Do you plan on going to college?  And…what about a job!  Do you have the skills and training to earn a high enough income to support the baby and yourself?
  1. Family: Does your family approve of you choosing adoption? If not, will they help you raise the baby?  The role your family plays will weigh heavy on your heart, but it shouldn’t be the determining factor.

Once you’ve received Christ Jesus into your life, a doorway between God and you will open.  The Father wants you to communicate your hearts` desires and needs with Him.  By embarking in a relationship with Him, you are taking the first step in praying with confidence.

Next, purchase a Bible if you don’t have one.  If you can’t afford a Bible, ask someone you know who is a Christian to borrow theirs.

  • Read the scripture
  • Ask questions
  • Believe in God’s promise – I will never forsake you.
  • Pray for answers
  • Wait for signs

Our Lord and Savior is an awesome God!  Nothing in this world should shame you from seeking Him first.  The Bible tells us that God loves it when we come to Him with a pure heart.  Asking Him for direction in whether adoption is right for your child will be your second step of obedience.

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Let Jesus Lead Your Adoption Journey

Preparing for your adoption, focusing on it and learning all you can now plays a huge role in your adoption readiness. So too does spending time in the word with Him. Did you know many of us spend more time on planning a remodel of their home or a two-week vacation that on adoption preparation? Don’t become one of them.

Jesus created an atmosphere in which His people were free to fail. Jesus allowed people to fail in their life just as He will let you fail in your adoption journey. His people survive emotionally because He loves them, but we have to say yes to His blessings.

When I found out about the adoption of my son, I was so ecstatic. The call came on my thirtieth birthday, and I just knew it was a gift from the Lord. Everything pointed to that. We were very prepared and ready to become parents in a few weeks. When a call came from his birth mother, that she has had him and felt she couldn’t go through with the adoption, my heart sank. I could hear our baby crying in the background and my heart ached for him. He was supposed to be ours!

I didn’t know why the Lord would bring me to this point, just to have the bottom fall out of my dreams. It was confusing, heartbreaking, and painful. Somehow, the Holy Spirit provided me with peace, and I told his birth mother that I understood. I reassured her that if she ever wanted to talk or change her mind, I was here. I wasn’t mad at her, and I cared for her very much.

Five weeks later, the Lord showed me that this baby was going to be ours, that I was to have faith, and so it happened. There were many emotional struggles, both for us and for the birth parents. It seemed like the challenges were many, new ones every day. We held tight to the adoption promise that the Lord had shown me through prayer and perseverance.

I kept my faith and my hope. Patience, something that is not natural to me, became part of my daily life. After 18 long months and a huge financial commitment on our part for attorneys’ fees, our adoption was complete with our son’s birth mother’s blessing. The Lord’s will was done.

Jesus was leading my adoption and was leading me when I couldn’t see an inch in front of me. He knew the way and the path to take. His grace and guidance held me up to take the next step, knowing His plan was perfect. Spending time in His Word, the Bible gave me the answers I sought.

I had to become flexible in my adoption plans. Jesus was changing the road I thought I was on. I learned that when He was on earth, He knew the needs of His people even before they did, just as He knows your child even now. He was aware of the feelings and desires of His people so much so that He would go out of His way to deal with the needs of just one person. He can do this for your adoption today, for your birth mother and your child. He loves helping His people as He showed in the Bible time after time.

Nothing happens by accident; my adoption didn’t happen by accident. Even with the struggles and challenges and pain, He was preparing me for the work I do today. The Lord had a plan for me beyond my imagination. He has a plan for you too! Your job right now is to be prepared, focused and ready for the time a child is presented. You must know if this child is the one the Lord has for you.

Today, think of a few people you could invite into your adoption journey and with whom you could pray with for God’s will. It may be scary to ask but take the opportunity to share a specific need for your adoption with at least one person, and ask that person for prayer. Remember, the Bible says that where two or three are gathered in my name, there I am also.

Lifetime Christian Adoption prays especially for our adoptive parents as well as the right child and birth mother for them. If it seems no one is available near you for sharing your prayer request, go to the Holy Spirit and ask Him to bring a prayer partner who will treat your heart with care and dedication in your needs. We all need support, and I believe in the power of prayer.

Remember that if you are a child of the Lord and have asked Jesus into your heart, He is ready to lead your adoption. All you have to do is ask Him through prayer:

Jesus, I need you to come into my heart and guide me and lead my adoption, I can’t do this alone and without Your help. You have shown others, and I trust You and want You to give me the guidance I need in my life, my marriage, and my journey to become a parent. I love you and desire this now.
Amen

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“Here’s Why I Chose Adoption for My Baby”

I chose adoption for my babyHailey was a pastor’s daughter who had been caught skipping school, smoking behind the church, and hanging out with an older crowd. Even though she knew Jesus’ love, the strict rules at home seemed too harsh for her free spirit.

She got pregnant at 17, and shared with us, “it felt like my whole world came crashing down. I felt shameful and guilty all the time and hid my pregnancy from parents. In my heart I knew better than this; sex before marriage is a real sin!”

When Hailey finally told her parents she was four months along and totally clueless about how to make this right with them and with the Lord. Rather than yell at Hailey, her parents embraced her with the love of God. They encouraged her to repent her sin and ask for His leadership in her decisions. Together with her parents, Hailey learned about her options and decided on an open adoption. She chose a Christian couple who weren’t able to have a baby of their own.

“Doing adoption wasn’t easy, but the guilt and shame I felt were exchanged for love for my baby, the adoptive couple, and God,” says Hailey. She celebrated this love because it was part of God’s plan for her life, even though it was due to her bad choices.

Your unplanned pregnancy might be part of God’s plan to bring happiness and joy to a childless couple. Think of it this way: maybe your sin is part of the miracle that God has ready for a couple who long for a baby. Pray and think about what the Lord wants you to do with your baby. Ask for His grace to support you as you make your decision.

All you have to do is seek His forgiveness: whatever mistakes you have made are in the past. Know that you can move on to enjoy the full and healthy life that God wants you to live. Just remember, Jesus loves you, and He has a great plan for your life!

If you’d like to learn about open adoption for your baby, call or text Lifetime Christian Adoption at 1-800-923-6784.

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Praying for Adoption With Confidence

praying-with-confidencePrayer is a key element in a Christian’s walk with Jesus.  It’s the doorway to our intimate relationship with Him. Through scripture and attending church, we’re encouraged to pray with confidence to receive what our Father in heaven has stored up for us.  How much more would God want us to pray about our adoption decision?

When you begin to consider adoption, prayer will be your foundation as you make decisions and plans in every step of the process. Without prayer and studying the Holy Scriptures, we cannot continuously achieve the balance we need physically, emotionally, and spiritually. God desires to help us in every aspect of life.  Our part is to accept blessings provided to us by Jesus as Our Lord and seek direction from His Church to know His will in building your family.

According to Ephesians 1:5, our Heavenly Father planned in advance that His children would not only be born into His family, but that we would also be received as His adopted children “according to the good pleasure of His will.” Adoption has always been on His heart. Joseph adopted and accepted Jesus as his child as well. Adoption is mentioned throughout the Scriptures.

God’s desire for us is that we achieve our adoption goals with confidence.  The Bible in 1 John 5:14-15 encourages us, “Now this is the confidence that we have in Him, that if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us.  And if we know that He hears us, whatever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we have asked of Him.”

If you are thinking about adoption, you will receive direction for building your family as you spend time in God’s word and call upon Him in prayer for help each day.  Peace in your decision will become clearer and you will be assured as to the next step as you turn to Him and commit to these daily activities:

  1. Seek His wisdom and plan for you
  2. Read and study His Holy Word
  3. Pray for step-by-step guidance
  4. Attend church on a regular basis
  5. Know that delay is not denial
  6. Wait for God’s direction before responding in every decision

Yes, adoption takes time and patience. And, for most of us, waiting isn’t the easiest thing to do, especially when we are looking for an immediate answer.  My own adoption was a test in faith and believing that the Lord would fulfill our desire to be a mom and dad. I struggled through the hard times when people around me were chosen as adoptive parents over us. Honestly, at times I felt God had forgotten us, but He hadn’t. And when our time came, God rewarded us with the most wonderful little boy.

God is good, and I can’t imagine life without our son. Though our wait for the child the Lord had for us was hard, I soon forgot it. Once I had my son in my arms and our eyes met, I knew this was the child the Lord had for us to love and parent.

God knows the desire of your hearts. If you will trust Him and have confidence in His Divine plan for your life, you will find it easier to hear His guidance and find peace in allowing Him to order your steps in finding your child. He will give you the desires of your heart and you will have the child He desires for you in your arms.

By waiting on the Lord, you will develop patience and understanding. You will learn to depend totally on Him, and your foundation will be laid for the wonderful days and years ahead as you fulfill your responsibilities as Godly parents.

If you approach the adoption process confidently trusting the Lord and prayerfully seeking His will in every detail, you will have set yourself up for the most exciting adventure of your life—the journey to parenthood!

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The Lord Blessed Us Through Adoption!

Here’s a beautiful adoption update our staff received from Christian adoptive couple Lawrence and Rhonda:

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“Hello Veronica,

Can you believe it has been two years since we were waiting to see if Lucas was going to be ours?! I remember feeling so many emotions, yes there were nervous feelings but I also felt peace like I knew he was my little boy and knew that we had so many people praying for us including all of you at Lifetime!

I remember talking to you and how much you helped me feel this peace and helped me trust in God that it would work out the way it was supposed to. Out of Lawrence and myself, I’m usually the one who stresses the most. But during this time I was calm and was reassuring Lawrence that it would all work out and to stay positive.

Every day when we watch Lucas grow and learn we feel more and more blessed and we thank you and the Lifetime staff for being there every step of the way and for helping guide us to our son!

Thank you all so much!

Many Blessings!”

Do you feel God is calling you to adopt a baby? You can take the first step in your journey towards adopting today, simply by filling out Lifetime’s free online application to adopt!

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Christian Adoptive Family Brady and Kristen from Arkansas

brady-kristenHello from Arkansas! Brady and Kristen are a fun, kind-hearted, outdoorsy, hard-working, and loving Christian couple. They’re high school sweethearts who’ve been together more than 16 years. Brady and Kristen are so excited to be growing their family through adoption!

They’re light-hearted people who love Christ, their four-year-old daughter, and each other. As Christians, they try to seek Christ in the direction of their family. Brady and Kristen love spending a lot of time outside. They also love animals and have two cats, two dogs, six chickens, and a rooster!

About his wife, Brady writes, “Kristen is a hard-working mommy. She is an internal medicine and pediatric doctor at a small hospital. She is a very ‘hands-on’ mom, frequently baking cookies, playing puzzles, or going to the park with Lucy. She has found a way to be a full-time mom, wife, and doctor without sacrificing anything but a few hours of sleep. Kristen is unselfish, loving, strong, professional, humble, brilliant, and creative. She has so much love to give and can’t wait to share that with another child.”

And Kristen has this to share about her husband: “His true love is being a husband and a daddy.  In 2016, he made a career change and is now owner/operator of a small laundry and gift business. Brady is loyal, honest, hard-working, smart, organized, efficient, and incredibly loving. He is the best daddy you’ve ever seen and is so ready to add to his family!”

Visit Brady and Kristen’s adoptive family profile online to learn more about them, view their photos, and read their “Dear Birthmother letter.” You may also browse other adoptive family profiles at www.LifetimeAdoption.com. If you see an adoptive family that you’re interested in, please give Lifetime a call at 1-800-923-6784.

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How to Create Calm Faith During Your Adoption Journey

calm-faith-in-adoption-journeyDuring the adoption wait, the cause of most of our stress is frustration and lack of control over the process. I’ve found the solution to frustration is practicing having “calm” faith that the process of adoption has been successful for others before me and will be for me too. In the right timing and God’s guidance, we will be parents. It’s natural for many of us to want to make things happen in our timing. This just leads to more frustration.

When we first started our own adoption, I was used to being in charge. I was the CEO of a manufacturing company, and simply made a call whenever I needed something. It was delivered to my office that afternoon. Oh, how different it was in adoption! I had a lot to learn and had to overcome my need to control. It became my daily frustration.

I found that if I put in an hour a day into my adoption process by learning and reading about adoption, I felt I had done something productive.  I was moving forward. This helped me with the frustration I felt while I waited for us to be chosen by a birth mother.

The relief in this frustration is the knowledge that God will help you with your heart’s desire to become parents in His timing! When we put daily trust in God with all our heart, we can keep on working and moving forward in our adoption process with a calm feeling, and the knowledge that God has a plan just for us. Don’t be discouraged and never give up! Slow down, and enjoy the adoption journey as it comes along. I understand where you are because I’ve been there too. Even if we don’t know the exact timing of our adoption, we can rest calmly in His loving guidance and the knowledge that He sees the desires of our heart.

Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and lean not unto thine own understanding.
-Proverbs 3:5

For nothing is impossible with God.
-Luke 1:37

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God is With You and For You

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This beautifully moving and thought-provoking message is from Lifetime Christian Adoption Founder Mardie Caldwell’s personal favorite, Jesus Calling by Sarah Young. It contains some great advice for those experiencing their adoption wait!

I am with you and for you. When you decide on a course of action that is in line with My will, nothing in heaven or on earth can stop you. You may encounter many obstacles as you move toward your goal, but don’t be discouraged—never give up! With My help, you can overcome any obstacle. Do not expect an easy path as you journey hand in hand with Me, but do remember that I, your very-present Helper, am omnipotent.

Much, much stress results from your wanting to make things happen before their times have come. One of the main ways I assert My sovereignty is in the timing of events. If you want to stay close to Me and do things My way, ask Me to show you the path forward moment by moment. Instead of dashing headlong toward your goal, let Me set the pace. Slow down, and enjoy the journey in My Presence.

What, then, shall we say in response to this? If God is for us, who can be against us?
—Romans 8:31

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, even though the earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea; though its waters roar and be troubled, though the mountains shake with its swelling.
—Psalm 46:1–3
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For nothing is impossible with God.
—Luke 1:37

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God Has Continued to Bless Me as a Mother

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Here’s a wonderful adoption update we’ve received from Christian adoptive mother Tara:

“Hi Diane and All Lifetime Staff!

I know it has been awhile since I’ve sent an update, but wow is life busy with a toddler! My boy is just the absolute light of my life and watching him grow and change every day is such joy.

My only complaint is that time goes by so very quickly. I cherish every single moment with him! He is just an amazing child.

If you would please keep us in special prayer. Especially that God continually guides me and blesses me with the wisdom I need to be the best momma for Caden. Being a single momma I definitely feel the pressure to make sure I have it all together but really only God can help me give him what he needs.

This time of year I am especially mindful of Lifetime and just how blessed I am to continue to be blessed by your remembrance of us and your ongoing support. It means so much.

Wishing you all a Happy New Year 2017!”

Do you feel God is calling you to infant adoption? You can take the first step in your adoption journey today, simply by filling out Lifetime’s free
online application to adopt!

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