Preparing for your adoption, focusing on it and learning all you can now plays a huge role in your adoption readiness. So too does spending time in the word with Him. Did you know many of us spend more time on planning a remodel of their home or a two-week vacation that on adoption preparation? Don’t become one of them.
Jesus created an atmosphere in which His people were free to fail. Jesus allowed people to fail in their life just as He will let you fail in your adoption journey. His people survive emotionally because He loves them, but we have to say yes to His blessings.
When I found out about the adoption of my son, I was so ecstatic. The call came on my thirtieth birthday, and I just knew it was a gift from the Lord. Everything pointed to that. We were very prepared and ready to become parents in a few weeks. When a call came from his birth mother, that she has had him and felt she couldn’t go through with the adoption, my heart sank. I could hear our baby crying in the background and my heart ached for him. He was supposed to be ours!
I didn’t know why the Lord would bring me to this point, just to have the bottom fall out of my dreams. It was confusing, heartbreaking, and painful. Somehow, the Holy Spirit provided me with peace, and I told his birth mother that I understood. I reassured her that if she ever wanted to talk or change her mind, I was here. I wasn’t mad at her, and I cared for her very much.
Five weeks later, the Lord showed me that this baby was going to be ours, that I was to have faith, and so it happened. There were many emotional struggles, both for us and for the birth parents. It seemed like the challenges were many, new ones every day. We held tight to the adoption promise that the Lord had shown me through prayer and perseverance.
I kept my faith and my hope. Patience, something that is not natural to me, became part of my daily life. After 18 long months and a huge financial commitment on our part for attorneys’ fees, our adoption was complete with our son’s birth mother’s blessing. The Lord’s will was done.
Jesus was leading my adoption and was leading me when I couldn’t see an inch in front of me. He knew the way and the path to take. His grace and guidance held me up to take the next step, knowing His plan was perfect. Spending time in His Word, the Bible gave me the answers I sought.
I had to become flexible in my adoption plans. Jesus was changing the road I thought I was on. I learned that when He was on earth, He knew the needs of His people even before they did, just as He knows your child even now. He was aware of the feelings and desires of His people so much so that He would go out of His way to deal with the needs of just one person. He can do this for your adoption today, for your birth mother and your child. He loves helping His people as He showed in the Bible time after time.
Nothing happens by accident; my adoption didn’t happen by accident. Even with the struggles and challenges and pain, He was preparing me for the work I do today. The Lord had a plan for me beyond my imagination. He has a plan for you too! Your job right now is to be prepared, focused and ready for the time a child is presented. You must know if this child is the one the Lord has for you.
Today, think of a few people you could invite into your adoption journey and with whom you could pray with for God’s will. It may be scary to ask but take the opportunity to share a specific need for your adoption with at least one person, and ask that person for prayer. Remember, the Bible says that where two or three are gathered in my name, there I am also.
Lifetime Christian Adoption prays especially for our adoptive parents as well as the right child and birth mother for them. If it seems no one is available near you for sharing your prayer request, go to the Holy Spirit and ask Him to bring a prayer partner who will treat your heart with care and dedication in your needs. We all need support, and I believe in the power of prayer.
Remember that if you are a child of the Lord and have asked Jesus into your heart, He is ready to lead your adoption. All you have to do is ask Him through prayer:
Jesus, I need you to come into my heart and guide me and lead my adoption, I can’t do this alone and without Your help. You have shown others, and I trust You and want You to give me the guidance I need in my life, my marriage, and my journey to become a parent. I love you and desire this now.
Founder of Lifetime Adoption, adoptive mom, adoption expert, and Certified Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P).
Since 1986, adoption expert Mardie Caldwell has been dedicated to bringing couples and birth parents together in order to fulfill their dreams.
“Many years ago, I was also searching for a child to adopt. We didn’t know where or how to get started. Through research, determination, and a prayer, our dream of a family became reality. I started with a plan, a notebook, assistance from a caring adoption consultant and a lot of hard work; this was my family I was building. We had a few heartaches along the way, but the pain of not having children was worse!
Within weeks we had three different birth mothers choose us. We were overwhelmed and delighted. Many unsettling events would take place before our adoption would be finalized, many months later. Little did I know that God was training and aligning me for the adoption work I now do today. It is my goal to share with our families the methods and plans which succeed and do not succeed. I believe adoption should be affordable and can be a wonderful “pregnancy” for the adoptive couple.
I have also been on both sides of infertility with the loss of seven pregnancies and then conceiving by new technology, giving birth to a healthy daughter. I have experienced first-hand the emotional pain of infertility and believe my experience allows me to serve your needs better.
It is my hope that for you, the prospective parents, your desire for a child will be fulfilled soon.”