When Lisa contacted us, she was four months pregnant and in college. She and the baby’s father, Max, weren’t prepared to be parents, and they didn’t believe in abortion.
Lisa and Max felt adoption was the right choice, but they were concerned that their child would not be brought up in the Christian faith. We were able to assure them both that they could choose a family that shared their beliefs.
The Open Adoption Process
With open adoption, you get to choose the adoptive parents for your baby. You can select from Christian couples hoping to adopt. You may want your child raised in a religious household or to grow up in a particular faith. Your adoption coordinator will help you find the adoptive couples who fit your wishes.
Once you narrow down the couples you are interested in, your adoption coordinator will provide you with their phone number and set up a time for you to call them and talk. As you get ready for this conversation, you might wonder what questions you should ask them. How will the conversation go?
The thought of this first meeting makes some birth parents feel a bit nervous. If you are feeling a little uneasy, don’t worry. Your adoption coordinator can conference in on the call or FaceTime if you like. The potential adoptive parents are probably nervous, too. Your adoption coordinator can help make the situation more comfortable for all and guide the conversation if needed.
Questions to Ask Christian Adoptive Parents
Think about what you would like to know about the couple that they might not have included in their profile. Perhaps the adoptive couple indicated they are Christians, but you would like to learn more specifically about their faith. Here are some ideas of questions to ask adoptive parents:
- How big of a role does your faith play in your life?
- How active are you in your church?
- Can you describe your church community?
- What attracted you to your church?
- How often to attend services?
- How do you plan on teaching your child about your faith?
- What are your views on parenting and discipline?
- How will you explain adoption to your child?
To get ideas of what to ask the adoptive couple, you might try looking over their profile and watching their video. Write down questions as you go. Ask for additional details, and don’t be afraid to ask the questions you want. You are finding the adoptive parents meant for your baby.
Finding the Right Adoptive Parents for Your Baby
A shared faith can create a special connection between you and your baby’s adoptive parents. It can give great comfort to birth parents when they know that the adoptive parents they chose will bring their child up in a Christian home that shares their beliefs.
Talk with your adoption coordinator about what your dreams are for your child. You envision the life you would like your child to have, and we will help you find the family that will be the perfect match for you and your baby.
Lisa and Max found just the right adoptive couple. Kara and John shared their faith and lived just a few hours away. They felt an instant connection and were on the same page about contact after the adoption was final. Lisa and Max both receive updates and pictures, and they all visit once a year during the summer. They have created a tradition of attending church on a Sunday morning and then picnicking in the park.
Lifetime Adoption will work with you and pray with you as you are on your adoption journey. As you decide who will parent your child, we will be there by your side to guide you.
Call or text us at 1-800-923-6784, 24 hours a day, seven days a week, to receive more information.
As the Chief Operating Officer (COO) of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.
Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.
As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.