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Mother helping her baby walk on a sandy beachBack in Biblical times, women who had no children felt they were being judged or cursed by God. Today, we know that’s not the case. God does things for His own reasons and in His own timing.
 
For some couples, God has called for them to grow their family through adoption. If you’re considering adoption, the first step is to go to God in prayer and make sure it is His will for you. Today, I’ll share 11 tips to follow so that you can be successful in Christian adoption!
 

Getting Started in Christian Adoption

  1. Write out your adoption plan: Decide which type of adoption is best for your family. You can always review and revise your plan during your journey to adopt a child.
  2. Be realistic when evaluating your finances and determining your adoption budget.
  3. Assess your emotional readiness, and that of your family, to adopt.

The Adoption Process

    Staying connected to God during your adoption journey

  1. Learn everything that you can online and from books about adoption and parenting. You may never again do something so important.
  2. Don’t be obsessed: stop looking at your phone or computer at a reasonable time. Make sure to get enough rest, eat well, and take time to appreciate your life.
  3. Make sure to take care of each task that your adoption professional asks you to do; don’t procrastinate.
  4. Be calm each time you start adoption paperwork or to-do items.

During Your Christian Adoption Journey

  1. If you already have children, know that this can be a stressful time for them. They need you! Remember to spend quality time with them, read them stories, and tuck them in at night.
  2. Understand and be aware that your adoption journey will naturally come with its ups and downs.
  3. Lean on each other and on God for support. Share with your spouse the vision of the child you will bring into your home. Your love will grow as you work together to realize your dream.
  4. Get involved with other adoptive families for emotional support, both online and in real life, to enhance your parenting skills and the quality of your adoption experience.

Avoid Procrastinating

Many couples feel overwhelmed by the paperwork that confronts them at the beginning of the adoption process. They go into a tizzy and wonder if they will ever get through the mountain of paperwork needed to proceed to the next step.
 
They may even begin to wonder if it is worth all the trouble to become parents. But look at it this way – even couples with biological children go through many ordeals before they hold their baby in their hands. There are the constant medical visits, the stress of labor and delivery, and the financial expenses that come with it all.
 
Whether you are an adoptive or birth family, you have to go through certain uncomfortable and taxing situations before you get to enjoy your baby. Your mountain of paperwork is certainly passable!
 

Some reasons why couples put off completing the adoption paperwork include:

  • Feeling uncomfortable providing personal information about their finances and their medical history.
  • Feeling anxious or even indignant that they must provide all this information to become a parent.
  • They have a tendency to procrastinate!

Every God-given day offers us many chances and opportunities to make a difference in our lives and the lives of those around us. Regarding adoption, what you do in a single day can determine your entire adoption journey.
 
Many couples find adoption paperwork to be daunting. But when they finish it, they wonder what the fuss was about! The paperwork and home study process may seem to drag on, but remember that it will bring you one step closer to that blessed moment when you bring your baby home and become “Mom” and “Dad.”
 

Adopting as a Christian

Above all, pray through each step of the process. Never underestimate God’s power and provision to see you through what can be a trying process. If God has led you to give the gift of adoption, don’t get discouraged when things become difficult or time-consuming. The Lord has a child meant just for you!
 

Get started on your adoption by filling out Lifetime’s free online application. We invite you to apply today!

Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P.

Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P., is nationally recognized as an expert on open adoption. A Certified Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P.), Caldwell is the founder of Lifetime Adoption Center, established in 1986. She has assisted in over 2,000 successful adoptions and was one of the first adoption professionals on the Internet.

Caldwell's life work is dedicated to educating and helping birth parents find the right adoptive parents for their child. She spreads the word about modern adoption through speaking appearances, webinars, online resources, and as a podcast show host.

She has written several award-winning books, including So I Was Thinking About Adoption, the first book of its kind. There are many reasons women choose adoption, and this short book is a comprehensive resource to make the best plan for you and your baby. Caldwell wrote So I Was Thinking About Adoption as a handy guide to the details of the adoption process.

Caldwell has made over 150 media appearances, including ABC News, CBS News, Larry King Live, CNN Headline News, NBC's The Today Show, CNN's The Campbell Brown Show, NBC News, KGO Newstalk Radio, CNN's Black in America II, MSNBC, Fox, PBS, BBC, and Dr. Laura.

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