The weather is nasty outside and you are just aching to hold a baby in your arms- not any baby but your very own. I have been there and I share with you at times it seemed it would never happen. I had to find a way to keep myself inspired; motivated to take the next step to reach my goal of being a mommy through adoption. I found a few things helpful. One was having an adoption buddy; I had another hopeful adoptive mother that was as committed as I was to becoming a mom too. We would chat during the day and encourage each other with ideas and trade leads and information. It was nice to speak to someone who was like me, and who I could shed some tears with, when I became frustrated at the progress, or when a birth mother chose another couple over us. I had to stay connected to stay motivated and the inspiration came from many sources including prayer, support group meetings, and reading.
If you need inspiration today, there are others who are positive role models for you and who’ll help you and not hinder your adoption journey. Set up a group of positive and encouraging hopeful mothers and create an adoption network of these women who are willing to help each other. It is vital that you avoid negative people and women that just complain but don’t get very far. You don’t need them anywhere near you or your adoption plan: they will just drag you down.
There are some great books to read to keep you inspired as well. Many are not adoption books but Christian books with motivating and inspirational messages to keep you moving forward with confidence, knowing that adoption is possible and will happen for you. Seek out God’s guidance and be inspired by His word while you travel this road that many of us have be down before. Remember, there is a baby for you!
You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.
Founder of Lifetime Adoption, adoptive mom, adoption expert, and Certified Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P).
Since 1986, adoption expert Mardie Caldwell has been dedicated to bringing couples and birth parents together in order to fulfill their dreams.
“Many years ago, I was also searching for a child to adopt. We didn’t know where or how to get started. Through research, determination, and a prayer, our dream of a family became reality. I started with a plan, a notebook, assistance from a caring adoption consultant and a lot of hard work; this was my family I was building. We had a few heartaches along the way, but the pain of not having children was worse!
Within weeks we had three different birth mothers choose us. We were overwhelmed and delighted. Many unsettling events would take place before our adoption would be finalized, many months later. Little did I know that God was training and aligning me for the adoption work I now do today. It is my goal to share with our families the methods and plans which succeed and do not succeed. I believe adoption should be affordable and can be a wonderful “pregnancy” for the adoptive couple.
I have also been on both sides of infertility with the loss of seven pregnancies and then conceiving by new technology, giving birth to a healthy daughter. I have experienced first-hand the emotional pain of infertility and believe my experience allows me to serve your needs better.
It is my hope that for you, the prospective parents, your desire for a child will be fulfilled soon.”