As we’re in the midst of the holiday season, I’m grateful for the opportunity to serve birth mothers considering adoption and guide them to the amazing families that have chosen to work with Lifetime.
I’m grateful for families who are engaged in the process, ready and prepared to adopt the child God has for them, and equally ready to show Christ’s love to the birth mother who chooses them as parents for her little one.
I’m also thankful for the opportunity to share a beautiful devotion with you that one of our sweet adoptive mothers wrote and shared with us. Finding gratitude in the adoption wait can be challenging, but the authenticity of her words and feelings are such a powerful reminder of who is in control…
WHO IS IN CONTROL?
“Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the Lord.”
Waiting for something that I have no control of – it’s extremely hard. I have no idea what the birth mom is looking for as she clicks through my profile, website or video. Was I enthusiastic enough? Did I smile enough in my pictures as I hold down the tears of my longing heart to be a mom?
But in all this I am reminded of the truth that as much as I would like – I do not control the process. As a matter of fact, there are very few things I can control in my life.
The God of the universe is in total control. He determines when and if I will become a mom. Lifetime does not control it, the social worker does not control it, no one does but God. Knowing this, the one I have to wrestle with, talk to – is God Himself. The one that I am waiting on is God.
With this in mind – how should I wait on Him? And, what are His expectations while I wait? He expects me to wait in hopeful expectation of His mighty power. He expects me to be eager, but not impatient. He expects me to be joyful – that the full display of the fruit of His Spirit are seen in my life: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Gal 5:22-23). He expects that a daughter with a good Father knows in her heart that He has good gifts for me; that He does not withhold anything good (Psalm 84:11). So daughter of the living God, wait well! Your daddy knows the longing of your heart. Ask Him today to help you trust His perfect timing.
Prayer: Lord, it’s hard to wait well. I know that in Your perfect timing, and if it’s Your will You will make this happen. I trust you as my good Father. In Jesus’ name, amen.
As the Vice President (VP) of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.
Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.
As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.