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Teen girl worried about how to tell her parents she's pregnantYou didn’t plan for this to happen, but here you are with a positive pregnancy test and a heart full of worry. It is normal to feel scared, confused, or like you are letting people down. Your mind is probably swirling with questions and “what-ifs.”
 
Now it’s time to break the news of your unplanned pregnancy to your parents. Of course, you want your parents in your corner, so the thought of disappointing them can be terrifying.
 
Even if you are close with your parents – even if they know you are sexually active – this news may come as a shock to them. You can’t know for sure how they will react. As you prepare for this big conversation, remember that you are not alone. You don’t have to figure everything out by yourself.
 

These 6 tips can help you keep the discussion about your pregnancy news moving in a positive direction:

 

1. Do some soul-searching.

How do you feel about your pregnancy? Even though your pregnancy is unplanned, can you picture your life with a child? Could choosing a Christian adoption be the right path for you? Before you bring other people’s emotions and opinions into the equation, decide how you feel about your situation.
 

2. Research.

There are several options to consider – parenting, abortion, adoption. Find out what resources are available for each course of action. The professionals at Lifetime Christian Adoption can provide you with information about all of these options, whether or not you decide to pursue adoption. They will never pressure or judge you. Once you know the facts, you can approach your choices with maturity and make informed decisions. Your parents will feel better about following your lead when they see how much thought you have invested.
 

3. Plan responses for different scenarios.

Your parents are sure to have many questions about how you will handle your unplanned pregnancy. Rehearse your responses for the various paths you may decide to take. Will the father be involved? Will you be able to raise your child with support? Without support? Are you open to a Christian adoption? Having plans to address multiple scenarios will make you feel more confident during this conversation.
 

4. Choose the right place and the right time.

Let’s face it – there is no perfect time to have this conversation. But there are factors you can control in order to give this topic the attention it deserves. Plan a time when you and your parents can meet in a safe space and will not be rushed. Choose a setting where everyone can feel comfortable sharing their questions and reactions. Make sure everyone has time to let the information sink in. You shouldn’t deliver this news when someone is walking out the door, or when you are in the midst of an argument.
 
Give yourself some time to prepare for this important conversation, but don’t wait too long. Your pregnancy will progress whether or not you are ready to talk about it. It’s best to have this talk as early as possible.
 

5. Listen to your parents.

Give your parents the opportunity to voice their questions and concerns. They may even need a little time to vent. Truly listen to what they have to say. If they feel heard and validated, they may reciprocate and end up being more supportive of your decisions, whether or not you see eye to eye.
 

6. Continue the Dialogue.

This is not a one-time conversation. Once the initial shock has worn off, and everyone has had some time to process, you and your parents can schedule future discussions about your plans. Consider opening the conversation to other trusted people in your life. Your family’s pastor or friends who share your faith could offer additional resources or a unique perspective. Take it all in, but don’t feel pressured to make any big decisions during these initial conversations. Regardless of the support and advice you receive, this is ultimately your choice.
 
Remember that your parents’ first reaction may not represent how they truly feel. When people are caught off guard, they can freeze or be at a loss for words. Some people react before they have time to think. Even the most supportive parents can respond harshly at first.
 
You have had more time to process this information than they have, so give them time to adjust to the news. You may find that your parents end up being your most significant source of strength during this part of your life. In the meantime, you can speak with trained professionals by calling or texting Lifetime’s pregnancy hotline at 1-800-923-6784. They will offer you compassionate, non-judgmental support and guidance as you decide on the best course of action for your unplanned pregnancy.